洋妞讨论如何管教中国男人 以及分析中国男人的性格、相貌、皮肤、jj等(转

转眼沙发就没了,罢了放正文:Chinese man + Western girl...isn't a combination you see much of in China. While Western men often date Chinese girls, it's quite rare to see Western women with Chinese men.

Why?
Well, I actually don't know (who does?!

) for sure, but I can only guess that it has something to do with one, or many, of the following reasons:
1.

Western girls are taller/ have got 'bigger bones' than most Chinese men, and often look/are bigger than Chi men.

A girl doesn't want to feel 'bigger' than her men and a man doesn't want to feel smaller than his woman.

..
2. Culture differences: many Western women are quite independent and used to sharing the house chores with their men.

In many Chinese cities, the woman is expected (regardless if she has a full time job or not) to take care of the household, make dinner, and so on, with no additional help from the man (except for if she lives in Shanghai!

The Shanghai men are apparently real house helpers). I find it hard to imagine a western woman settling for this when she's been brought up in a completely different society.

At least I know I wouldn't.
3. Language barrier (needs no further explanation)
4. Lack of mutual attraction?!

When I first moved to China I caught myself thinking that 'I will never find an Asian man attractive.

.. they are just not my style....' But then, something happened?! I don't know if my eyes needed time to adjust to the different scene or what.

.. but suddenly I started to see attractive Asian men on the streets (China, Korean, Japanese.

..)
I think it might have something to do with the fact that you first come, and think that everyone looks the same (this goes both ways: many Chinese have told me that they think all western people look the same) and then it takes a while for your eyes to adjust and actually distinct people? Anyways, that's how I felt it was.

After something like 8months-1 year I started seeing a lot of attractive Asian men, and the funny thing is, that when I pointed them out to western friends who had just come here/who was here for a visit, they just looked at me and frowned.

Maybe the eye needs some time to get used to things? I don't know what other way to explain it...

Nowadays I can think that many Asian men are attractive. When me and one of my girlfriends travelled to Seoul in Jan this year we were both quite amazed how good the guys looked, how well they dressed, and so on.

(Although, to me, simply being attracted isn't enough to start dating. There obviously needs to be a personality click as well)
In general, I think Chinese men are more feminine than Western men.

A classic example is the 'man bag' that became trendy some years ago...

In China a man bag seem to be able to look like a woman's handbag and still be OK for a man to carry around??!

(and then there are of course Chinese men carrying around their woman's hand bags... so those shouldn't be mixed up!

). Try getting a Western man to do that = instant failure.
在中国,中国男人加西方女孩的搭配似乎并不常见。

为何西方男性常常与中国女孩约会,而西方女性与中国男性约会就颇为少见呢?
对此,我无法给出太明确的结论,我只能将自己认为有可能的原因一一列出:
1. 西方女孩比大多数中国的男人都高,而且块头往往比中国男人还大,也就是所谓的“大骨架”。

但凡女孩就不会希望自己比她的男人还“高壮”,而男人们也不会喜欢被自己的女人衬得瘦小……
2. 文化差异:许多西方女性都相当独立,在家庭中往往与丈夫共同分担家务。而在许多中国城市中,女人们要独自承担起所有的家务活儿(即使她还做着一份全职工作),还要做晚饭,等等等等。她们的男人是不会帮她的。(只有上海的男人不这样。上海的男人真是理家的一把好手啊!

)对于试图融入截然不同的中国社会的西方女性来讲,做到这一点实在是太难了。我知道至少我就做不到。
3. 语言障碍(不解释了)
4. 相互之间缺乏吸引力
当我刚到中国时,我的想法是“姐绝不会被亚洲男人迷倒的…他们可不是我的菜…”,可是不知不觉中我的想法就改变了!

我想,或许是因为我的眼睛需要一些时间才能适应完全不同的景象吧……走在大街上,我忽然就被亚洲男人们秒杀到了(中国人、韩国人、日本人……)
刚到中国的时候,或许你会觉得中国人都长得一样(中国人也是这么看我们的,有许多中国人告诉我,他们觉得西方人都生得差不多),但当你的眼睛适应了一段时间,足以发现亚洲人的长相差异之后呢?不管怎样,在我在中国待了8个多月不到一年之后,我能就分辨出那些是英俊的亚洲男人了。

有趣的是,当我把那些男人指给我第一次来中国的西方朋友们时,他们往往会深感困惑,完全不能领会。
或许我们的眼睛需要一些时间才能适应新事物?我只能这么解释了…对于现在的我来说,找出亚洲男人萌点这种事儿已经毫无压力。

今年一月份我和我的一个朋友去首尔旅游,我们俩被韩国男人的长相、衣着等等萌得热血沸腾。(当然啦,对我来说,光外表迷人并不意味可以开始交往了,性格也要好才行呀)
总而言之,我认为中国男人要比西方男人更女性化一点。

一个经典的例子就是,在最近几年“男性包包”成为了时尚……在中国有的男包长得和女包没什么两样,这样也没问题吗?(有些男人甚至还会拿着他们老婆的包包上街……这哪儿能弄混啊!)如果是个西方男人,你让他带个这样的包——那真是想都别想。